i got sudden bad vibes from ami at the very end, think this may end up getting fairly dark

i'm sorry to have to inform that in the uk we are very much not k. the drinking helps a bit tho

yessss it's back! thanks for picking it up! so im guessing there is hope for a true happy end? I was surprised Nacchan actually spilled the beans to her husband! Like damn if I heard the words "I'll probably love her more than anything for the rest of my life," I'd call off the wedding then and there lol.

Actually it is not uncommon than you think. The two types of women that I have dated did exactly what you just described, Both are widows. You just have to remind yourself that if you keep having a hang up of this, you will never have a successful marriage or relationship. You need to remind yourself that you are chasing a ghost, but it does not have to be that way. One of the things I did was to listen, to learn as much as possible about their deceased partners. Never say things like "I am chasing a ghost...I will never be able to be loved fully by you". Just simply do not think about it, and remind yourself, this was then, this is now. If you marry that person, consider that you also marry the ghost. Sooner or later their feelings will change, could be one month could be 5 years. So the most important thing you need to know is never feel hurt and remind yourself that this is normal. Now, if you think that you cannot possibly wait for 5 years, then you may think about breaking up. But usually the only reason for breaking up is because the clock is ticking down towards menopause closer and closer and you do not want to have a kid who essentially only has one parent. My best friend also has the same "widowhood" problem. But thankfully she finally understand that it was unfair to her partner because she still kept missing her dead boy friend from almost 2 decades ago. Once she "woke up", she put in every single energy into her then current relationship until he passed away. She loved him so much that she swore she will never marry anyone from then on.

damn do you live in a mining town on an active volcano or what

strangely transphobic bathroom joke in this one... I hope im just missing context somehow. I dont expect bkub to be a paragon of kindness or anything but that one was so 1 dimensionally mean that it reads like some awful fascist comics id rather not name

It's not a trans person. It's a peeper who wants to leer girls on their bathroom, thus stuff like "He's gonna find that I'm a guy" or "Gotta fool him with a girly voice" which don't really work for trans people. Trans girl won't think: "I'm a guy," because she's not and trans people don't usually maintain something like separate voices.

i'm a trans person, and i absolutely read it as a straight up mean transphobic 'joke'. why? because while it's not how a real trans person thinks, it is absolutely how shitty transphobes think that real trans people think. as the original comment indicates, this mythical scenario has been the bread and butter of anti-trans scaremongering forever.

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