Niwa: To answer your query, my sister was molested by a teacher, from that trauma she chose to be a lesbian. Her trust in men is gone , she will not talk to men nor look at them, she has even stopped talking to our brothers and this happened seventeen years ago. I do think some trauma's have a large enough impact to warrant a young girl or woman being a lesbian, many just make a choice to be, and some feel only attracted to girls as they grow up from childhood. For myself I choose to be a lesbian because of the overwhelming amount of love and passion I get from my fiancee, she chose me to release her feelings and because I was moved by her heart I chose her also. But many young ladies and women are different and I do agree that many factors can play a part in how or what a girl will turn out to be. But this is why God made girls stronger at birth ;) we have to put up with much more emotional stuff than men do , it's too bad men could not really feel a woman's emotions, they would turn into babbling lumps of goo .