For the first point, I'll have to agree to disagree. What you call a person, I do not, and I'll fully accept we just see this differently. When reading fiction, I expect the author to make them human, and I respect your differing view.
Perhaps it's because I have a bit of an outsiders view on relationships, but I do not believe cheating to be as bad as you make it morally or universally, but I am not familiar with the circumstance myself, and so I must concede it's horribleness to you.
Agreeing to disagree is probably the best thing we can do at this point, and while I may think differently, I can totally understand why you would feel a lack of empathy with such a blank character, after all you don't know enough about them to know if you can relate to them.
In regards to relationships I too must admit to being somewhat of an outsider looking in and as such my opinion on cheating has been formed with out personal experience. Cheating to me seems to be a complete disregard of your partners trust and as such a rather horrible thing to do, though not having experienced it I'm perhaps not the best judge. Also there's the question of whether or not is is cheating, I think it is, but with Hotaru initiating it creates a grey area that I'm sure other people will interpret it differently.
I think of the two couples shown, the wishes of those involved are paramount, regardless of whether you think one deserves it or not. Nor do I believe that ones actions, or at least those of Hotaru thus far, should preclude her from having a relationship with Yuma, however I'll concede that as different moral outlook.
I agree that both partners have to want the relationship for it to work, however I do believe behavior is important as well and given her actions so far It makes me wonder how Hotaru would behave if in a relationship. That being said, you are totally right that her actions up to this point should not prevent her from having a relationship with Yuma in the future, however it is my opinion that for that relationship to work she would have to change the way she acts, as if she were to act the same way while in a relationship I can envision that being problematic.
Thing is, the matter of him being in the relationship IS just him being there first. His feelings are not the most important thing here. If he gets hurt, he rips off a band aide. He moves on, assuming he's well adjusted enough. Yuma discovering herself is by far more important, and if it takes Hotaru not being perfect, so be it. She is in high school isn't she? She can act selfishly and not be Satan for it.
This is actually something I hadn't previously considered, and it is interesting. I suppose that in the long run it is more important that Yuma figure out her identity than her boyfriend keeps his girlfriend . After all they can break up and he can get a new girlfriend and be happy, the same can't be said of Yuma if she doesn't figure out what she wants. It seems to be in the best long term interests of both to break up, because is she's unhappy then she'll make him unhappy, maybe he'll be hurt, and that'll suck, but I suppose it's also an unavoidable part of life that he'll get over. It terms of Hotaru's age affecting her selfishness, I don't personally believe that youth should be an excuse for hurtful behavior, though thinking about them as the actions of a hormonal teenage, does make them more understandable, after all what teenager hasn't made dumb mistakes.I don't believe her behavior to be inexcusable I just think it needs to be reflected upon so that she may improve, and think more about how her actions might affect others.
It's been interesting for me to see someone's else perspective on this, and has actually led to some changes in my own stance on the matter, so thank you for this.
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