Yeah, Kaori definitely originally got upset at Emi because she didn't like the idea of her dating someone. One could argue that the reason she finally gets up the courage to confront Emi after what's apparently been years is because she overheard her talking about going to a mixer. Even back in middle school (and maybe as far back as in elementary school) Kaori had a crush on Emi and was aware of it. Emi is clearly obsessed with Kaori too, as evidenced by the dress, but clearly she'd never thought about dating her. She just wants to be by her side forever.
I find this is very common in yuri, where a character will take forever to realize that she likes someone romantically/sexually, though I wonder how common it is in real life. I think people tend to know very quickly if they're attracted to someone, even if it does take longer to realize you love them. I can't tell if this represents a common phenomenon or just an affectation of the genre.
I dunno how common it is per se but it happened to me, so maybe that's why I'm a lot more tolerant of stories that use that kind of trope. I grew up in a very very oppressive household, and in an area where "gay" was Not A Thing To Be Discussed, so I had no idea what it even really meant till I got to high school. I never liked boys that way. Once I got to high school, I was confused why my female peers did but I didn't, but being attracted to women instead never occurred to me. I was also never one who had many (girl) friends, but those I did have I would be SUPER attached to. I was oblivious but many of those around me were not. Eventually I was teased and harassed. Cue incredible amounts of shame and repression for many, many years, even though my own actions and emotions basically SCREAMED at me "lol ur so gay" in bright neon letters.
I met my BFF 20 years ago, when I was 19. She was my first love. At the time, because of my ignorance (aided and abetted by denial), I still couldn't distinguish my feelings as being anything more than a deep attachment to an awesome person. Things got rough for a while, especially after she started seeing her boyfriend (now husband). Somehow our relationship survived, and I managed to STILL believe I was straight AF. I didn't self-accept and fully come to terms with it till I was in my early 30's though, when I started to meet people online who were LGTBQ and made me feel comfortable for the first time ever. I was finally able to really truly sit back and think "Okay, just, wtf. Why didn't I just figure out and accept all this sooner?".
So yeah, it can really happen. And I think probably more commonly than people think, especially in cultures that are still very rigid about gender roles and/or tend to be pretty homophobic.
I'm going to regret getting so personal here, but whatever, yolo.
And then here's me, spewing out my miserable life's story, hah
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